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Post by clt80 on Dec 4, 2017 20:23:09 GMT
Oh Helen this is just awful. Sending much love and hugs to you and your husband at such a terrible time xxx
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Post by skysmum on Dec 4, 2017 20:43:28 GMT
Such a terrible tragedy, i'm so very sorry for you both and can only imagine how you feel . Fly high in fields of millet beautiful boys xx
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Post by helenmat on Dec 4, 2017 22:28:06 GMT
Your words and thoughts are so kind and I know that all of you understand our feelings, we have had more than a few tears today. It’s just so tragic. Hubby is still really upset with himself, after some chat today I now know he did leave the grill on for quite a while, he had forgotten about it and by the time he had realised it was too late. The oven liner was baked basically by the grill. They are safe to use if they are not overheated but obviously it was. When I looked into it further it was stuck to the bottom of the oven and there was a coating of black soot. He keeps saying things like, ‘why was I so stupid’ and ‘what did I have a toasted sandwich for’ and ‘why didn’t I put on the bloody extractor’. I have tried to reason with him that what ifs will not achieve anything and it is just a tragic accident, that he never meant to happen, we loved those two little birds with all our hearts and to think we contributed to their deaths is so hard to take. The house is so so quiet, I hate it. There have been birds chattering away in our house for 6 years and the silence is deafening. I am crying again now so I’m going to try and get some rest. Love to all of you, keep your little friends safe. Xxx
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Post by Shirls on Dec 5, 2017 12:11:32 GMT
I keep thinking about them too. So very sad.
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Post by clt80 on Dec 5, 2017 16:26:41 GMT
They have been in my thoughts all day too. You and your husband look after each other, both be kind to yourselves xx
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Post by helenmat on Dec 5, 2017 17:15:40 GMT
The stupidest things set me off, I am fine for ages then something will happen to remind me, I opened a cupboard today and found the Budgie toys! Alex went to put on his hat and it has a tail feather from 3 of the birds in the rim. That set him off. We are a pair of wreaks. The only positive thing is that I have no cleaning up to do, I don’t know what to do with myself. We are already skirting around the idea that we don’t like being bird-less!
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Post by clt80 on Dec 5, 2017 17:20:32 GMT
Take each day at a time. It's an awful shock and overwhelming grief added to it x
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Post by ffiscool on Dec 5, 2017 17:25:55 GMT
it is very hard. yes, take a day at a time...
I know it is early days, but you may find that some new buds may well help.
what happened was a tragic accident.
you both clearly adore budgies and newbies would have a lovely home.
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Post by Hezz on Dec 5, 2017 19:36:05 GMT
It has to be the hardest way to lose your precious pets. I know I would be in bits for a long time to come. But as you have said, Helen, you, but most importantly Alex, has to remember that it was an accident, a terrible one, but certainly not intended. There is a reason why the word accident came about .... for times such as this. Hugs and lots of tears here too. xx
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Post by suesbird on Dec 8, 2017 20:29:12 GMT
I'm just catching up and so sorry for you and your husband. Sorry very, very sad. Such little beauties. Time is a good healer, just one day at a time.
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Post by Ichigotchi on Dec 10, 2017 13:51:45 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss Helen. Like the others have been saying, don't be too hard on yourself as it was an accident. Remember the years of happiness you gave them. I cried for days when my Cubbie passed and thought I'd never want to buy another bird to avoid the pain of losing them, but once a budgie owner, always a budgie owner. You'll know better for next time Feel better soon, hon x
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Post by bud9 on Dec 19, 2017 19:44:32 GMT
Such a terrible tragedy, i am so sorry and feel the pain of losing your little buds, R.I.P and fly high.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 21:01:42 GMT
Oh gosh helenmat my heart goes out to you and your husband reading this. I hope you don't mind me posting so late to offer my condolences. Accidents happen and I did similar myself the other day. I left my grill on for 30 minutes but in fact I didn't mean to turn it on I wanted to put the oven on and wondered why the kitchen was getting so hot. We are only human. RIP to the boys and I hope you're both ok.
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Post by helenmat on Jan 16, 2018 22:38:09 GMT
Thanks Jane of course I don’t mind it’s lovely of you. It’s nice to hear from you by the way, are you ok?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2018 22:45:10 GMT
Thanks Jane of course I don’t mind it’s lovely of you. It’s nice to hear from you by the way, are you ok? Yes thank you helenmat. I've just been very busy with work and became a grandmother for the 2nd time on 30th October. I now have one of each and there's only 16 months between them. It's nice to catch up on the forum albeit so many sad losses seemed to have happened
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