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Post by Hezz on Apr 13, 2023 0:49:51 GMT
Great news for your daughter and partner, and a lovely idea regarding a first-day hamper. I think what I would like the most is a delivered take-away dinner and a bottle of lovely wine. I’m sure have already thought of these things. I really like the idea of them not being afraid to take on a project as too many people want it all perfect straight off and not go through the effort of making a house your own home. Congratulations to them!
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Post by ariella on Apr 13, 2023 15:35:46 GMT
Yes, she will be a 5 minute drive away and as she and hubby car share to work, I’ll be seeing her on at least 4 mornings/evenings of the week as she won’t be able to stop herself coming in to see the hairy hoomans and the dogs will love seeing her. They’ve decided on fish and chips from the Chippy on moving in day so there’s nothing to wash up and they don’t have to stop for long as they’re going to be painting their bedroom. It has one navy coloured wall but they’d like it all in a neutral shade so there’s no time better to do it than when there’s no furniture in it. She’s called in all favours from her contractors (she’s a property manager) and so has a carpet cleaner being dropped off that afternoon and her gas engineer is going in to swap the hob over to gas for her. Her main issue is not wanting her “in-laws” interfering. They seem to think they will be there in the house helping. The way they’ve behaved at times over the house has been interesting to say the least. My daughter is feisty though and has already challenged them once (when her OH’s father decided the whole family plus dog should have a walk past). This was a minimum of 6 people all stopping to look at the house, which my daughter wasn’t having. Drive past and look by all means but you’ll see more from the property details online than staring at the house on a walk, is what she told them, and she felt as a family were living there it would just be peculiar to look out your window and see a group of people stood outside. It didn’t go down well and they thought she was wrong. She has the move in planned and they’re lucky as it falls straight into a bank holiday weekend too, so they have those days to get in, clean through, paint and then move over their furniture and boxes and start to unpack. I understand how she feels. She would get uptight if OH’s dad told her to put the coffee table here and not there (and he would) so they want to feel they’ve got things straight and then let people in. What they don’t know is that I went and viewed it with them. I qualified as an estate agent many moons ago and I have always held an interest in property and basically they needed someone to help them check the right things, ask the necessary questions and see beyond the facade to what they can do. Then hubby went with my daughter to measure up for curtains and he checked a couple of things also. SSH!! 😂 But we only went as we were asked. I’m very much an advocate for letting them spread their wings and fly knowing that we’re just a phone call away. It’s time for them to make their own life together and I’m so proud of them. Turning up unannounced is something we’d never do. I homeschooled the kids so I know them so well and I also feel it was important to ensure they were independent and capable of making their own choices (hopefully sensible most of the time) and so I’m not one to keep phoning daily or checking up on them. My eldest lives his own life about 40 minutes away but we’re in touch a couple of times a week and he loves sending videos to wind his siblings up, usually of him doing something questionable. He drives hither and thither all the time and I know if he’s in our part of the world as he has a distinctive horn and he always gives a toot if he passes by our nearest main road. Sometimes he’ll pop in but often he’s en route somewhere and that suits me fine. He’s just started his own business with his best friend and partner so I found myself proofreading their T&C’s for him before their website went live. His life is non-stop and we’re in the loop but happy to let him and his gf be and catch up for a good chat as and when. The magic of iMessages means contact is so easy. I’m not on social media and don’t even have WhatsApp as I prefer to live in the dark ages but they know they can message me and use the Jurassic landline to speak to me! They also know I can take one look at them and can also read between the lines of calls and messages and always know if they’re in a happy place at the moment and will send out a query if I suspect something’s up, be it work-related, relationship-related or whatever. So I’m usually their sounding board. They know hubby and I are always here for them, good or bad, and there have been both over the years. We don’t need to live in their pockets and I like my own space anyway so I’m quite content. We weren’t blessed with the greatest in-laws on either side so we ensure we’re there when they want and need us but we won’t interfere. I feel for my daughter at times as we’ve made it clear they never have to feel obligated to us. We suffered that for far too long and yet her bf’s parents are pretty expectant of things. Fun times ahead! 🙄😄
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