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Post by helenmat on Mar 6, 2020 3:28:46 GMT
tweetiepiesmom, I’m eating ok all be it at weird times. I have been making sure my dad eats and in turn so have I. It is just the not sleeping and heart palpitations I am finding tough. I feel sick I am so tired but I just can’t sleep.
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Post by tweetiepiesmom on Mar 6, 2020 3:35:15 GMT
Good luck at the doctor's - I'll be thinking of you.
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Post by Hezz on Mar 6, 2020 8:09:55 GMT
PM, Helen.
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Post by jellybean on Mar 6, 2020 11:54:40 GMT
Been thinking about you too Helen, just can't find any words of consolation.
I feel your pain, and all you are going through.
Sending lots of love.
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Post by blue48 on Mar 6, 2020 13:00:46 GMT
You could try an antihistamine that lists drowsiness as a side effect, something with Chlorphenamine like Piriton (but not the non-drowsy one), however I wouldn't take anything until you have seen the GP about your palpitations. My guess is that they are connected with grief and anxiety due to losing your mum but they can be very frightening. Maybe your GP would prescribe a short course of sleeping tablets just to get you through this most difficult time. Please let us know how you get on.
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Post by helenmat on Mar 11, 2020 9:48:13 GMT
I didn't get sleeping tablets from the doctor. I did though try Kalms, the herbal ones. I had some success and am at least getting a little more sleep.
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Post by suesbird on Mar 11, 2020 14:44:27 GMT
Big hugs Helen, thinking of you. xxxx
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Post by Hezz on Mar 11, 2020 19:07:57 GMT
Anything that helps you sleep, especially without artificial drugs, is a good thing. The body can only take so much without restoring itself. A couple of glasses of wine always helps me sleep, if that's your thing. The alcohol helps let your body relax (enough). xx
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Post by criswell on Mar 11, 2020 23:06:01 GMT
I'm glad the Kalms are helping. I'm thinking of you and your family.
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Post by tweetiepiesmom on Mar 11, 2020 23:40:23 GMT
Glad you are sleeping more helenmat. Hopefully the heart palpitations have stopped. There are many natural remedies, pick the ones that appeal to you, warm bath before bed, warm cup of milk, chamomile tea, soothing music. If I wake up in the middle of the night, I pick up a book and read for awhile. There's nothing more frustrating to me than lying in bed trying to get back to sleep when sleep won't come. Continuing to wish you comfort and peace.
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Post by helenmat on Mar 13, 2020 17:34:32 GMT
Glad you are sleeping more helenmat . Hopefully the heart palpitations have stopped. There are many natural remedies, pick the ones that appeal to you, warm bath before bed, warm cup of milk, chamomile tea, soothing music. If I wake up in the middle of the night, I pick up a book and read for awhile. There's nothing more frustrating to me than lying in bed trying to get back to sleep when sleep won't come. Continuing to wish you comfort and peace. I have tried reading and the words just swim on the paper and I can't take them in. I have listened to my audio book a few times which is ok. We found out yesterday tea time that mum was to be cremated today (13th Mar) I found it harder than I thought I would this morning but I have framed the pictures I made for my Dad, brother and daughter and delivered them this afternoon. I spent a couple of hours in the garden which was nice apart from when I opened the shed and found an ornament and some seeds that mum had given me which made me cry, she loved the garden and we used to pass notes back and forth all the time. Its hard to think I can't do that anymore.
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Post by tweetiepiesmom on Mar 13, 2020 18:39:30 GMT
How wonderful the picture collage looks - I'm sure your dad, brother and daughter love it. I've tried audio books in the past but if its something I really want to read the audio book is no good - puts me right to sleep! If it works as a distraction for you, great! Finding things around your home from your mum that will touch your heart and bring forth the tears is natural and not be worrisome. I'm so happy you had that fabulous relationship with her even though its just memories now.
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Post by helenmat on Mar 13, 2020 19:04:27 GMT
Its weird I don't dream very much at all but if I ever did dream in the past it was always about my Mum, usually something bad happening to her etc and I would wake up in a mad panic. There has been a few occasions when I have phoned her the next morning to see if she was ok. It was my biggest fear, loosing her, we were so so close, we thought alike and bought the same things without knowing the other had, I knew instinctively if there was something wrong and her me etc. But I had no feeling like that before she died, it came completely out of the blue. I am finding this incredibly painful to bear. I still havent had a day when I havent cried. Now I am dreaming about my Dad because I am worried about him.
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Post by Jane on Mar 13, 2020 19:18:05 GMT
Oh helenmat, I just don’t know what to say only that I am thinking about you. You’ve had a big shock and it will take time to adjust. Have you thought of contacting bereavement counselling to support you through this?
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Post by tweetiepiesmom on Mar 13, 2020 19:22:42 GMT
So sorry that you are having to go through this. There is nothing wrong with keeping close to your Dad during this time. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and pray that you will find a way through it. Keep us posted whenever you feel like it.
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