Post by luvmybird on Jun 22, 2020 6:14:26 GMT
Hi.
I'm new here. Long read.
2 years ago next month, July, i got my beautiful bird. She is called a fancy. Mainly yellow with green around her belly. I named her Baby because she is small.
I am 6ft 6 with a belly so ya i am a big man, not sure if my size is why she seems to be afraid of me or not, that's why I'm telling you personal stuff. I am 57 years old and have PTSD, bad depression and anxiety issues that cause me to stay home 24/7. I have had budgies in my past that were easy to tame and flew around my place. One budgie would even shower at my feet when i had a shower and when i did dishes he would sit at the edge of the sink for me to flick water at. That budgie was very well hand tamed.
Baby on the other hand doesn't trust me whatsoever. I stay home 24/7 and Baby is about 10 feet away from me in her cage. I play video games and watch netflix. When i game i listen to the radio. The stereo is in my small living room with both speakers in here as well facing away from Baby. I notice some songs really make her perk up especially metallica lol. She must be an old rocker. In the corner of my eye i see her look at me then her food or water dish quite a few times before she jumps to one. When i 1st got her she didn't eat or drink for over two weeks. When she eats she lets the shell fall back into her food dish. When she is hungry and dunks her head for food and doesn't get any she yells at me, an annoying squawk that is loud, ( brat lol ) so i get up and go put my hand in her cage and a finger in her food and mix it up then she eats.
When i got her i let her get used to me and her room, every night i cover her and every morning uncover her. Both times saying night night and a clicking sound twice. Now when i get ready to cover her i make the clicking sound twice and so does she, sometimes way before sleep time she does the clicking and i look at the clock and say " no way Baby it's way too early " a few minutes later i look over and she's having a nap with her head twisted to her back. I turn my already quite music dow and let her have a nap. After about 10 minutes she is bobbing her head chirping the sounds i teach her and playing with her toys.
About 6 months after i got her i started to bring her cage into my bedroom when i needed an old man nap. For a few days she just sat there sometimes chirping while i slept. One day we went into the bedroom and i closed the bedroom door and opened her cage door. I layed on my bed as she twisted her head looking at the open door. I fell asleep and a couple hours later wake up and she's still sitting there looking at the open door
So i decide to put my hand in for step up, she didn't do step up at that time so i forced her to flutter around her cage until she landed on my finger. When she was on my finger in her cage and finally calming down i said " see this isn't so bad " and slowly moved my hand out of her cage, as she got towards the open door and almost out she reached up with her beak and climbed off my finger staying inside her cage so in my hand went again offering my thumb to sit on. Eventually she sat on my thumb and i grabbed her with my hand and brought her out of the cage. She bit me and it hurt but i just used another finger and pushed her beak off my skin and softly said " no biting Baby " once out i held her loosely and allowed her feet to hold the top of her cage. When i thought she was gonna be ok i slowly let go and let her see me move my hand away from her. Then i slowly backed away. She sat on top of her cage a few minutes and a fly flew by her and it freaked her out she flew around my bedroom slowly running out of steam and coming down. She landed on my bed and looked tired. I didn't say anything or do anything but look at her for a few minutes. She spotted her cage, her safe zone and walked across my bed and flew up to the perch outside her door and into the cage. A few days went by and i took her there again. Same thing, offered her my thumb to sit on after flying around her budgie size cage and finally wrapping my hand around her and slowly bringing her out and setting her on top of the cage. After a few minutes she flew around my bedroom and into the corner falling slowly to the floor after landing on my bed slightly. My bed is against 2 walls and that's the only corner i didn't plan on her falling to. The other corners all had fluffy blankets. Now i'm freaking out, do i move my bed and hopefully not squash her? I hear her walking on the hardwood floor and saw her come out along the wall covered in cobwebs. I laughed and said " awww poor Baby are you ok" and picked her up and wiped her off the best i could. I got her to sit on my finger and slowly moved towards her cage as she looked around. I put my finger close to her door perch, she stepped off and into her cage. In the past 2 years i do that about once a week. I still have to force her out of the cage but she finds her way back.
She still doesn't trust me. She still looks at me a few times before eating or drinking. Both the food and water dish have hooks on them to hang inside her cage. She doesn't sit on the food dish perch she sits on one side or the other so she can see me. When she drinks her water she jumps from her main perch to the back of her cage and holding onto the cage dips down for a drink or two.
I bought her special treats in small bags. One is fruit the other is conditioner. I tried to get her to eat from my hand. Nope. I tried separate dishes. Nope. So i mix it with her food. If i put it in her cage during the day and she smells it i get yelled at. I say " just eat it because when the smell goes away you eat it anyways " and laugh. I figured out if i mix it and put it in her cage just before bed time, then cover her by the morning she eats it. Ha ha tricked her.
Just within the last month or two i put my hand in her cage and my right pointing finger on her main perch she gladly side steps onto it and sits there up to a minute before she steps off. Sometimes i use the thumb on same hand and lightly ruffle her chest feathers without issue. I hear some birds take awhile to tame but come on now, 2 years and she still doesn't trust me? Someone said get a 2nd budgie. Like i want 2 birds to ignore me living on a limited budget it's sometimes hard buying food for one bird nevermind 2. About 6 months ago i bought her a treat stick. It's budgie treat stick that hangs inside her cage by a plastic hook. The plastic hook goes through the treat. I even removed some of it hoping she would smell it and eat it. Nope she thinks it is another toy
I buy her sprayed mullet that she loves. I hang it in the cage so she doesn't poop on it. I have sandpaper on her perch that she uses and after 2 years she finally uses her cuddle bone.
I want her to fly around and enjoy life. What am i doing wrong with this bird? I love her attitude and personality. But i want her to have more in life. I was told she was 3 months old before reaching the store.
Sometimes during the day she mopes. She sits by her mirror with her head lower then her shoulders, top of her wings, she will sit like that a long time. She won't use her bird bath. Won't even check it out. Sometimes she talks with me. I will call her an ugly bird and she says something i don't understand and then says pretty bird. I will talk to her and when i finish a sentence and stop she will chirp the same amount of time and stop so i can say something else.
Please help me so i can keep her and gain trust. I know if i give her away she will die because no one will spend all day with her like i do.
Sometimes when i game i stream and people watching my stream hear her in the background and say " Hi Baby " i say Hi baby to her at that time and who says it to her. She reacts with chirps.
I don't wanna give up on my beautiful bird and start all over with another. What do i do?
I'm new here. Long read.
2 years ago next month, July, i got my beautiful bird. She is called a fancy. Mainly yellow with green around her belly. I named her Baby because she is small.
I am 6ft 6 with a belly so ya i am a big man, not sure if my size is why she seems to be afraid of me or not, that's why I'm telling you personal stuff. I am 57 years old and have PTSD, bad depression and anxiety issues that cause me to stay home 24/7. I have had budgies in my past that were easy to tame and flew around my place. One budgie would even shower at my feet when i had a shower and when i did dishes he would sit at the edge of the sink for me to flick water at. That budgie was very well hand tamed.
Baby on the other hand doesn't trust me whatsoever. I stay home 24/7 and Baby is about 10 feet away from me in her cage. I play video games and watch netflix. When i game i listen to the radio. The stereo is in my small living room with both speakers in here as well facing away from Baby. I notice some songs really make her perk up especially metallica lol. She must be an old rocker. In the corner of my eye i see her look at me then her food or water dish quite a few times before she jumps to one. When i 1st got her she didn't eat or drink for over two weeks. When she eats she lets the shell fall back into her food dish. When she is hungry and dunks her head for food and doesn't get any she yells at me, an annoying squawk that is loud, ( brat lol ) so i get up and go put my hand in her cage and a finger in her food and mix it up then she eats.
When i got her i let her get used to me and her room, every night i cover her and every morning uncover her. Both times saying night night and a clicking sound twice. Now when i get ready to cover her i make the clicking sound twice and so does she, sometimes way before sleep time she does the clicking and i look at the clock and say " no way Baby it's way too early " a few minutes later i look over and she's having a nap with her head twisted to her back. I turn my already quite music dow and let her have a nap. After about 10 minutes she is bobbing her head chirping the sounds i teach her and playing with her toys.
About 6 months after i got her i started to bring her cage into my bedroom when i needed an old man nap. For a few days she just sat there sometimes chirping while i slept. One day we went into the bedroom and i closed the bedroom door and opened her cage door. I layed on my bed as she twisted her head looking at the open door. I fell asleep and a couple hours later wake up and she's still sitting there looking at the open door
So i decide to put my hand in for step up, she didn't do step up at that time so i forced her to flutter around her cage until she landed on my finger. When she was on my finger in her cage and finally calming down i said " see this isn't so bad " and slowly moved my hand out of her cage, as she got towards the open door and almost out she reached up with her beak and climbed off my finger staying inside her cage so in my hand went again offering my thumb to sit on. Eventually she sat on my thumb and i grabbed her with my hand and brought her out of the cage. She bit me and it hurt but i just used another finger and pushed her beak off my skin and softly said " no biting Baby " once out i held her loosely and allowed her feet to hold the top of her cage. When i thought she was gonna be ok i slowly let go and let her see me move my hand away from her. Then i slowly backed away. She sat on top of her cage a few minutes and a fly flew by her and it freaked her out she flew around my bedroom slowly running out of steam and coming down. She landed on my bed and looked tired. I didn't say anything or do anything but look at her for a few minutes. She spotted her cage, her safe zone and walked across my bed and flew up to the perch outside her door and into the cage. A few days went by and i took her there again. Same thing, offered her my thumb to sit on after flying around her budgie size cage and finally wrapping my hand around her and slowly bringing her out and setting her on top of the cage. After a few minutes she flew around my bedroom and into the corner falling slowly to the floor after landing on my bed slightly. My bed is against 2 walls and that's the only corner i didn't plan on her falling to. The other corners all had fluffy blankets. Now i'm freaking out, do i move my bed and hopefully not squash her? I hear her walking on the hardwood floor and saw her come out along the wall covered in cobwebs. I laughed and said " awww poor Baby are you ok" and picked her up and wiped her off the best i could. I got her to sit on my finger and slowly moved towards her cage as she looked around. I put my finger close to her door perch, she stepped off and into her cage. In the past 2 years i do that about once a week. I still have to force her out of the cage but she finds her way back.
She still doesn't trust me. She still looks at me a few times before eating or drinking. Both the food and water dish have hooks on them to hang inside her cage. She doesn't sit on the food dish perch she sits on one side or the other so she can see me. When she drinks her water she jumps from her main perch to the back of her cage and holding onto the cage dips down for a drink or two.
I bought her special treats in small bags. One is fruit the other is conditioner. I tried to get her to eat from my hand. Nope. I tried separate dishes. Nope. So i mix it with her food. If i put it in her cage during the day and she smells it i get yelled at. I say " just eat it because when the smell goes away you eat it anyways " and laugh. I figured out if i mix it and put it in her cage just before bed time, then cover her by the morning she eats it. Ha ha tricked her.
Just within the last month or two i put my hand in her cage and my right pointing finger on her main perch she gladly side steps onto it and sits there up to a minute before she steps off. Sometimes i use the thumb on same hand and lightly ruffle her chest feathers without issue. I hear some birds take awhile to tame but come on now, 2 years and she still doesn't trust me? Someone said get a 2nd budgie. Like i want 2 birds to ignore me living on a limited budget it's sometimes hard buying food for one bird nevermind 2. About 6 months ago i bought her a treat stick. It's budgie treat stick that hangs inside her cage by a plastic hook. The plastic hook goes through the treat. I even removed some of it hoping she would smell it and eat it. Nope she thinks it is another toy
I buy her sprayed mullet that she loves. I hang it in the cage so she doesn't poop on it. I have sandpaper on her perch that she uses and after 2 years she finally uses her cuddle bone.
I want her to fly around and enjoy life. What am i doing wrong with this bird? I love her attitude and personality. But i want her to have more in life. I was told she was 3 months old before reaching the store.
Sometimes during the day she mopes. She sits by her mirror with her head lower then her shoulders, top of her wings, she will sit like that a long time. She won't use her bird bath. Won't even check it out. Sometimes she talks with me. I will call her an ugly bird and she says something i don't understand and then says pretty bird. I will talk to her and when i finish a sentence and stop she will chirp the same amount of time and stop so i can say something else.
Please help me so i can keep her and gain trust. I know if i give her away she will die because no one will spend all day with her like i do.
Sometimes when i game i stream and people watching my stream hear her in the background and say " Hi Baby " i say Hi baby to her at that time and who says it to her. She reacts with chirps.
I don't wanna give up on my beautiful bird and start all over with another. What do i do?