Mar 2, 2021 10:27:45 GMT
welliellie
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Post by welliellie on Mar 19, 2021 8:51:01 GMT
Until recently we had two budgies. The first budgie we got has passed away now, she was led than a year old so it was unexpected and there was nothing we could do. We got the second only 7 weeks before she died as we felt she was getting lonely and had guilt over having to leave her alone, sometimes for an entire day. He is currently nearly 4 months old and has never been on his own. He came from a breeder with a large amount of birds and bonded with our other bird immediately and very closely. This meant he didn't really bond with us but he would copy her and interact with us if she did. Since she's gone, it's clear he hasn't bonded with us, he was scared of us to begin with and it was almost like starting from scratch. We do not want to get another bird and unlike our first bird, we don't feel as if this one will cope well being left on his own. I can see he is bonding to my partner but my partner normally works 48+ hr weeks and once he goes back to work there will only be me and he and I haven't really bonded.
We don't want to rehome him but I may have to start working away from home for a day or two a week soon and I'm worried that he will become depressed and lonely. Is it kinder to rehome him now whilst he is still young (I believe the breeder would take him back to add to his flock) or should we wait it out for a bit and see how he gets on?
I am torn because he is still grieving our other bird, so rehoming him seems cruel, like he will lose us too but if he is going in with lots of other birds, would he be happier in the end?
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Post by mona on Mar 19, 2021 8:57:53 GMT
That's a difficult decision to make!! You seem like you care for your birds..
If you are really good and kind to the birdie, it might be his chance to be at a good place. Going back to breeders might be a good option until he is separated to send away to some other place.
Music during the day does help the birdie. Many have managed to keep home a single bird while they are working.
If still you can't come to terms with it, you might want him to go to a lovely home instead.. with some birdies already there for company π§‘
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Mar 2, 2021 10:27:45 GMT
welliellie
Brand New Budgie
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Post by welliellie on Mar 19, 2021 9:05:48 GMT
That's a difficult decision to make!! You seem like you care for your birds.. If you are really good and kind to the birdie, it might be his chance to be at a good place. Going back to breeders might be a good option until he is separated to send away to some other place. Music during the day does help the birdie. Many have managed to keep home a single bird while they are working. If still you can't come to terms with it, you might want him to go to a lovely home instead.. with some birdies already there for company 𧑠We do all the good stuff, like put music on, provide toys etc when we are out but our birds have never been cage birds. When we are home, they are out so I feel huge amounts of guilt for going out and having a good time and leaving them in a cage all day. Our first bird coped well but ultimately we felt it was kinder to get her a friend. But I don't think our second bird will cope that well, he is far more used to being with other birds. It's really hard and obviously we are still grieving our first bird (i was very closely bonded with her) so to rehome him feels like another loss.
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Post by mona on Mar 19, 2021 9:07:37 GMT
Maybe then you could consider getting him a friend about the same age. Two birdies are always good spending time with each other. I can understand the grief associated with loss of birdie and the current feelings you are having might be coming from there..
I can understand your guilt for keeping birdie cage bound too. people keep flight cages so that they can fly around when inside the cage and some change their sleep awake schedule to keep them out of cage and for interaction. It might not be safe to keep birdie out of cage when you are not around. I have seen some accidents happening with even toys.. so that's what you are trying to keep him safe. Someone else will be able to advise you better than me.. but maybe, just take some time to get over the pain of the loss of your birdie, before deciding on anything else.
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Mar 2, 2021 10:27:45 GMT
welliellie
Brand New Budgie
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Post by welliellie on Mar 19, 2021 9:29:34 GMT
Maybe then you could consider getting him a friend about the same age. Two birdies are always good spending time with each other. I can understand the grief associated with loss of birdie and the current feelings you are having might be coming from there.. I can understand your guilt for keeping birdie cage bound too. people keep flight cages so that they can fly around when inside the cage and some change their sleep awake schedule to keep them out of cage and for interaction. It might not be safe to keep birdie out of cage when you are not around. I have seen some accidents happening with even toys.. so that's what you are trying to keep him safe. Someone else will be able to advise you better than me.. but maybe, just take some time to get over the pain of the loss of your birdie, before deciding on anything else. We really don't want to get another bird. Whilst I would never have rehomed them when we still had our other bird, we have a small flat and having two birds flying out all day was a huge amount of work in keeping the flat clean. I don't want to go back to that even though I accepted it before because we chose it to be that way. Equally, we are very hurt by the loss of our first bird and concerned it could happen again. We spent nearly Β£1000 in vets bills trying to save her and can't afford that again.
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Post by Marianne Marlow on Mar 19, 2021 11:12:50 GMT
It's a very difficult decision to make. I'm not sure what to advise you.
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Post by mona on Mar 19, 2021 11:46:12 GMT
Maybe then you could consider getting him a friend about the same age. Two birdies are always good spending time with each other. I can understand the grief associated with loss of birdie and the current feelings you are having might be coming from there.. I can understand your guilt for keeping birdie cage bound too. people keep flight cages so that they can fly around when inside the cage and some change their sleep awake schedule to keep them out of cage and for interaction. It might not be safe to keep birdie out of cage when you are not around. I have seen some accidents happening with even toys.. so that's what you are trying to keep him safe. Someone else will be able to advise you better than me.. but maybe, just take some time to get over the pain of the loss of your birdie, before deciding on anything else. We really don't want to get another bird. Whilst I would never have rehomed them when we still had our other bird, we have a small flat and having two birds flying out all day was a huge amount of work in keeping the flat clean. I don't want to go back to that even though I accepted it before because we chose it to be that way. Equally, we are very hurt by the loss of our first bird and concerned it could happen again. We spent nearly Β£1000 in vets bills trying to save her and can't afford that again. I think you have answer to your own query. That all will be always a part of birdie life. I have two untamed budgies flying out in one room, since the architecture isn't bird friendly over here. We have to get a lot done.. It seems you already know what you want to do, but you are surrounded by the guilt of the one that's lost and one with an unknown future. If you rehome him, please make sure that he goes somewhere where there's cage free time, importance on diet and other budgies to share life with. π€π
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Post by Hezz on Mar 20, 2021 0:40:53 GMT
I think it might be kinder to rehome him sooner rather than later, and to give him the chance to be with a family or flock where he is included. The breeder might be your best bet to either help you find this little one a forever home or to take him back in to be with his previous flock, or to be rehomed with someone else.
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Post by Morgan on Mar 25, 2021 5:48:04 GMT
I think if you are going to rehome him, sooner would be better for him to adapt to his new environment. My only flighty birds still (after much millet training) are the two that were oldest when I adopted them. I think the breeder would be the best choice because your bird will probably recognize his old flock and family. The breeder will also be able to quickly find him a new home if necessary. Otherwise, someone willing to work with a timid single bird, or who already has one or a few budgies would be best. If you are about to rehome him and you feel that you just canβt give him up - that would be your sign to keep him instead, btw.
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