May 11, 2020 21:47:47 GMT
rosebunting
Brand New Budgie
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Post by rosebunting on Sept 9, 2022 3:19:01 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone on here has done a better job than I ever could providing comfort and support, but I would like to add on just a little.
It's so easy to think "I never want to go through that pain again." We had to pts my dog, Daisy, at the end of February 2020. She would have been 13 in just a few weeks. It is and was the worst feeling. I grew up with her (having known her for over half of my life) and I relied on her so much. Through every hardship, every sad or stressful or lonely night, she was there. So I still often feel overcome with grief when no one else is awake late at night. It really hurt me that she passed before her 13th birthday. I didn't know how lucky I was that her loss happened before covid, or I might not have been able to be with her in her final moments. But when everything shut down, and I was stuck in the house without her, it felt so much worse. So I definitely think that changing your routine or at least getting out of the house can be a good bandaid while the wound is healing; you don't have a timeline you need to follow.
And on that note as well, I think you should take as long as you need before getting another pet. You might not want to get one for a very long time, you might be telling yourself you never will. And that's ok. Because whether you will or not is not set in stone and shouldn't be forced. Please don't close your heart completely though. I tried after I lost Daisy. So did my dad. And then a little green budgie showed up on our windowsill in May 2020. And there was no way we could not love him.
So I guess what I'm trying to say, is take all the time for your heart to heal, protect your heart if you must. But keep an eye out your (metaphorical) window. Love will fly back in some form. I promise.
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Aug 26, 2022 17:46:24 GMT
magpie
Brand New Budgie
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Post by magpie on Sept 10, 2022 8:36:54 GMT
Thanks all for your thoughts and apologies to those for whom this has brought up tricky emotions or memories.
On the not getting another pet thing, this isn't a reaction to his death as I have known for probably for the last 5 or 6 years that he would likely be my last. There are multiple reasons.
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Aug 26, 2022 17:46:24 GMT
magpie
Brand New Budgie
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Post by magpie on Sept 14, 2022 10:29:03 GMT
The vets called about my complaint. They said that the practitioner with the fear of birds just flew into a blind panic and is extremely upset by what happened but is now undergoing therapy to overcome the phobia. They said they have put new protocol in place to identify and treat any severe phobias amongst its staff and to ensure that no two people with the same mild fear are ever on shift together and that video consultations will be added as an option. I guess I can take some comfort and closure in knowing that Charlie has inspired better care for other animals at the practise going forward.
The vet with the phobia offered to meet with me to offer her apologies in person but I said I didn't feel it was necessary as my only goal was to make sure it never happened again and I felt satisfied that it had been taken seriously.
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Post by lemonora on Nov 17, 2022 13:56:56 GMT
How are you feeling now magpie? I hope the grief and sadness got a little easier Wishing you the best 🌹
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