Hep me decide

[ladybird]

Most of you know we lost our wonderful Charlie yesterday and I really do feel devastated.…… But today our breeder called me to ask about  Charlie.    I was saying to him that I would definitely one day want to get another budgie to love…. He said , it’s probably too soon for you to think about it but I have three babies ready in about three weeks.     Be honest my friends do you think it’s too soon?  …….I know I will never find a character like my Charlie or a talker….but I have the love to give…. I want to say say but feel a bit disloyal……

[suesbird]

I would say go for it. you will never forget him and have such lovely memories which no one can take away. It will help and something to look forward to. xxxx

[Loz]

No one can replace a lost loved one but a new feathery friend will go long way towards filling an awful hole left by Charlie.
If you think you might want another budgie, you should definitely go for this.

[ffiscool]

I’d say yes. Charlie was a special one of a kind boy. A new bud won’t be Charlie, as they all have their own quirks, but you will develop a new bond and the training and time, will help. You will get pleasure from each other, I’m sure.

Having had 3 from babies, all so different, but equally wonderful. My first was very bonded with me, spoke, followed me in my flat, wanted to get in the bath with me. Then, Bailey spoke so much, bonded but played differently, wouldn’t come out the lounge. Then Max, so confident, played ball with me on the floor, running to get it, bring it back. But within a few months was coming with me to do his food.

[jellybean]

I'd say yes too, no one will ever replace Charlie, he was your baby boy, but, as you said yourself "you have the love to give", so why not give all that love to another little budgie looking for a loving forever home.

[tweetiepiesmom]

I'll make it unanimous and say yes! You are not being disloyal to Charlie but are giving another budgie a loving and wonderful home. Does the breeder happen to be close to you so you could go visit the babies during the three weeks? It might give you an idea on which of them might bond to you. Shortly before the pandemic, I was in my local small pet store and couple were at the register with a small bird box so I asked them if they were buying a budgie. They said yes, their budgie died the previous day and they just had to get another. How long you wait before getting another is a personal decision. The three weeks will give you plenty of time to fix up the cage. The best of luck to you.

[Marianne Marlow]

It's certainly not disloyal to get a new friend. All budgies have different personalities and one would never replace another.

If it would make you happy to give a home to another little budgie then go for it

[ariella]

ladybird, I would have to agree with the others. I think you have so much love to give and hearing a new little bird will be better than silence. You’re a wonderful mum and Charlie would want you to give a home to a new budgie. When you have a breeder you trust so well and he clearly trusts you to have one of his, I’d say this is meant to be.

[ladybird]

Thank you so much everyone, I really did need to hear all your thoughts……. I have just had a good talk with the breeder , he has three babies that will be ready to leave in about three weeks. He just sent me some photos. One is a definite girl and of the other two he has one that he is certain is a boy. He wants me to go and look at them later and have a little cuddle…. he says I will know if I feel he is right for us….. and if not he wants me to wait until the next babies are born.
He has some spray to give me for the cage etc……. So we will see. I want to go but still feel some guilt.

[Marianne Marlow]

I understand you feeling the guilt, it's very hard when one of our little feathery souls passes on. I am sure that Charlie wouldn't want you to be unhappy.

[jellybean]

I think, if you don't go and see them you will forever wonder "what if"

However, if you do go, I'm sure you will know immediately how you feel, one way, or the other.

I'm already guessing the outcome.

[lemonora]

I agree with all of our friends 👍
So sorry for losing your Charlie I can’t even imagine how it feels but you gave him a great life, so you’re actually doing it for the birds not just yourself, I believe that they save us as much as we save them 😍🐥
Charlie would want you happy, and no one can ever take his place in your heart
They will keep you busy and fill your heart and life with joy and happiness
They need you as much as you need them because believe me
We definitely need these little amazing creatures and bundles of joy 🐥❤️
Wishing you the best dear❤️

[Hezz]

They are all so very different, and as long as you realise that the next one will not be a clone of Charlie, be prepared to bite the budgie bullet. Just be prepared to have to put a lot of time and energy into making the new one feel as loved, at home and cared for that Charlie was. Consider it Charlie’s legacy.

[tweetiepiesmom]

I do think you should visit the baby budgies. Just be prepared that they'll melt your heart - the babies are so cute!

[stevex]

A definite yes from me too. I think I can speak for everyone here when I say we never forget any of our previous budgies, and you will not forget Charlie either or be disloyal. They are all different and whenever I have a new one, I think of it as a new adventure.